It is okay to share your true feelings. The real question is, “Do you feel safe to share your true feelings?”
Sharing Your Feelings
Once upon a time I shared my true feelings with another. This came back and haunted me for years. One, I was scared to death that anyone else would mistreat me in that manner. Two, most people were not aware of my truth, and were quick to add judgement. Yep, judge another. This is does not make sense to judge the one who’s feelings had been dismantled and misaligned from her own being. No one shall judge another, especially when one walks in a page 999; there are 998 pages before then. We all have moments that have shaped us.
Judge No One
It is not okay to judge another. Heck, it is not okay to impose your judgement of another on another individual. Yet, there are times when we have all done this exact thing. I recall a volatile work environment where judgment and condemnation was the foundation within the walls of this location. This brings forth a hostile and unhealthy situation for all- even those who do not wish to participate.
We are all doing the best that we can. No one has the critical analysis to bestow their opinions on another. The old adage of do not judge a book by its cover or walk a mile in another’s shoes are great way to procure lack of judgement.
Caught Yourself Doing the Judging
Uh oh! You’ve just caught yourself judging another. Do not fret or worry. We all make mistakes. Gossiping is a mega human condition of the ego. It is the internal celebration of competition. We do not need this; yet somehow if you accidentally slip; apologize to yourself, and create a projection of positive light energy of forgiveness to yourself and the whole situation.
Being Brave Enough to Change
I recently found myself in a group of others; I knew no one. When someone mentioned something that I do not believe in; it was okay, it was accepted as my feelings and that was an amazing feeling. In that moment I felt as if I had found the Holy Grail and sippith from my Chalice of Divine Spiritual Waters. I felt safe to express me.
What about yourself? Once upon a time, I was super harsh on myself. Super patient for others and none for me. The worst feeling in the world was feeling unsafe and distrust for myself. Yep, I did not trust me. I did nothing wrong; I was scared to death that what happened in the past was forever and always. Now, that does not mean that everyone is out to get me; nor does this mean that I am untrustable for being lead to believe that one cared about me, and used this against me. It means that I shall overcome what was done. I am undoing the painful lessons and allowing myself the ability to trust again. In other words to feel safe.
Forgiveness of Self & Others
The ancient Hawaiian Mantra Ho’oponopono is a great tool to help with forgiveness. Use your name, another’s name and/or situation. There is no wrong way to say this; so, if you wish to change the step- no worries.
Step 1: Surrender-– I’M SORRY
Step 2: Ask Forgiveness – PLEASE FORGIVE ME
Step 3: Gratitude – THANK YOU
Step 4: Love – I LOVE YOU
Feeling Emotionally Safe
- Identify and challenge your toxic thoughts towards yourself.
- Be open and speak up for yourself
- Do not agree to everything. Do not say yes when you really mean no.
- Recognize that you may need assistance from another and that is okay.
- Be Brave and ask for help.
- Be consistent
- Demonstrate commitment to you.
Yes, Natasha I would love to learn how to Love Myself & Others Without Criticism and Judgement
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Oodles of Love & Magical Blessings,
Natasha Botkin, Master Teacher & Intuitive Behavioral Energy Healer, is a #1 international bestselling author and Shiny Gold Star Quest creator. As a Dark Heart Teacher, she uses healing soul psychology energies when working with youth and adults by releasing patterns & blocks to help them empower themselves. Connect with me https://magicalwellness17.com