Recently I witnessed why You should revel in your headstrong daughter:
The farmer had pre-made 1 pound batches that I was not interested in; and as I was awaiting for an answer from the farmer, her daughter stepped in, “Aww, Mom really sometimes, the customer is right; she just wants half a pound of asparagus; money is money and if we do this, she’ll remember and come back; we need good costumers.” This young lady is about 16 years old; some of the more mature ladies were off put by her statement.
A few moments later, I encounter a “headstrong” female toddler who wanted to bounce her ball to see how high it went. As I tried to stop the ball from rolling into the street, her parents stood looking on in an embarrassed state. I smiled and said, “Please do me a huge favor; love her strength and independence; she is a most blessed joy and one day will empower others.” The uncle smiles and nods his head in agreement with a quick flash I add, “Dance with her; and she will dance with you.”
Bring It On
I knew that I was being reminded of who I once was. My family did not relish in the favor of my independent strength; rather I was the last of the adage that children should be seen and not heard: the rendered statement-sit down and shut up echoing throughout my childhood.
Here is why we should enable our willful girls. Those determined girls blossom into powerful ladies. They are a blessing and a joy, and help others to shine in their power.
There was once a time where women were seen and not heard; in fact, there are many cultures and countries where this still occurs.
Reflect back to a moment to when you wish you had you communicated with your true voice and spoke from an authentic place, but then you did not. Now look back to a moment when you expressed your true, authentic, powerful voice and how this felt. It does not mean shouting or being aggressive. This means to feel empowered and enabled. Being able to say what you feel and not forgiving for having made a statement that resonates with your heart and soul.
An unwavering girl knows her own power and voice and she is not afraid to use it. How is this a bad thing? Or rather is it, because you wanted your idea to be the voice of reason as the “adult” or the one in charge; hence that is a control aspect.
Step back for a moment; disempower the willfulness of a girl and now she is complacent; her voice unheard and not expressed; her shine has dulled and another has control over her. Do you wish that to be your daughter? This is what begins to happen in the sense of domestic violence. DV can be emotional, mental, physical, sexual and so forth. Do you wish to teach your daughter to release her power to another, dull her shine and diminish her sparkle or worse her life?
This is not to say that everyone should be voicing whatever pops into their thoughts, that is where wisdom comes into play. Teach our youth, our girls how to use their voice in a positive manner. Because if they are brash and harsh this can swing into a whole other manner of aggression and isolation.
Let’s teach our girls to use their empowered voices. Let’s help enable their strengths and authentic selves.
Most importantly let us teach them their value and worth.
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When a person feels worthy and value this helps illuminate them to a who new light and level to help this world. Let us provide this manner for our “willful” girls who blossom and grow into amazing powerful young women.
Yes!Natasha, I would like you to help my daughter be her best!
Oodles of Love & Magical Blessings,
Natasha Botkin, Master Teacher & Intuitive Behavioral Energy Healer, is a #1 international bestselling Author, Artist and Shiny Gold Star Quest creator. She uses healing soul psychology energies when working with youth and adults by releasing patterns & blocks to help them empower themselves. Connect with me Magical Blessings Healing Center