Let it Go

Six Easy Steps to Let Go & Be Happy

Let’s discuss and dismantle the worrier concern of the expected outcome.  In other words,  how to let go of expected outcomes and be happy.

 

 Let Go of Expected Outcomes

In my life I have found many times where I needed to ponder,  prepare,  and be ready for any outcome.  I am the mom of 2 gentlemen on the Autistic Spectrum. Due to this,  I needed  to be prepared for what could be a potential meltdown.  My boys were born with part of the Autism and genetical predisposition of anxiety, worry and so forth.  This led us down a very unique and different road.

What is an Autistic Meltdown

An autistic meltdown can be described as placing oneself under the brightest light you can possibly imagine,  the loudest volume & sound that you can possibly imagine,  and speaking in a foreign language with the notion that the speaker does not seem to comprehend that the individual that is receiving the information does not understand or is super overwhelmed; the expectation is to just get over it. Thus, with this being said,  it can lead to meltdowns of monstrous proportions.  When the Meltdown stage is happening it is too late and now it is about waiting, allowing an autistic individual to feel comfortable, be trusting and be able to move forward.  Some may need a 15 minute recovery, and some may take even longer.  There is no one way, there is no one stop shop and what worked yesterday may not work today.

 

Learning a New Dance to be happy

As I child I was very connected to my Divine Intuitive Feminine energy. However, with my consistent and omnipresent state of preparation for anything as an Autistic parent, caused me to yield my mama bear instincts along with powerful predicted needs for my children and probable outcome.  Thus, this can create quite a complexity  and for me did so.

It is about learning the ebb and flow of the dance/game called life.  It is about being able to take a step forward knowing a potential outcome as well as being able to take a step back when the unknown filters cause you to recalibrate your course to a more golden path that is necessary for your outcome.  This is a placement of here ya go – God/ Spirit  I lay and pray my worry and concerns to you.  Then stepping back and letting it go.

 

Recalibrating the Course

My sons are now adults and have exceed anyone’s expectation.  Therefore, my needs have altered and changed; I no longer need to be prepared for The Final Countdown.  Rather it is allowing the flow of my intuitive qualities to shine forth in the most Divine manner.  It is not an easy road nor awful road to go down. It is part of my journey. Letting go, unraveling, releasing, and clearing the clutter from an energetic standpoint  and belief system. My family is also notorious for preparing for the worst,  which in itself has its perks and its downfalls.

This is re-learning way of being. There is nothing wrong with how you made it this way nor the path that you’ve traveled.  It is about unlearning, remembering, undoing and be willing to begin again.  To never give up no matter what.  This takes on a whole other state of being. The state of being able to go with the flow,  to release the expected outcome,  and to be okay with what may be- unknown.

 

Ways to Overcome Expectations:

  1. In Zen there is the shoshin. This is a way to say coming with an empty cup or a beginner’s mind.  Being able to happen upon any circumstance with an open mind and an empty cup. This is about allowing the spiritual knowing and then to fill your cup
  2. See as if you are a child.  Close your eyes and see through the eyes of a child.  Pretend you’ve never seen this before and what a beautiful Wonder this is.
  3. Let go of Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda.  These offer nothing but worry, resentment and an obnoxious attachment to the outcome.  If you catch yourself using these terms stop close your eyes and take three deep breaths.  Then let it go.
  4. Purge and declutter your space.  When you hold onto an object,  items and such you are also holding on to a memory shell the possible outcome rather than what could possibly come forth.  When you let go of things that no longer serve you. This allows more to come to you in a whole new way.
  5. Practice receiving. Be grateful for any gift that you were receiving.  It is not about the actual gift rather it is about the appreciation and the beautiful loving feelings that flow from the gift.
  6. Be sure to clarify.  Your personal point of view/ perspective may have an obscure way of seeing something that may not even be there.  Yet, if you clarify this takes away the presumptive expectation. Thus, allowing freedom to bring forth beautiful peace and harmony.

 

May you find beautiful Joy,  Inner Peace and Serenity by letting go of the expected outcome.

 

Sure, Natasha, I’d love to learn more about ways to let go of old beliefs and patters for mySelf of my Youth.

 

Oodles of Love & Magical Blessings,

Natasha

 

Natasha Botkin Magical Blessings Healing CenterNatasha Botkin, Master Teacher & Intuitive Behavioral Energy Healer, is a #1 international bestselling author and Shiny Gold Star Quest creator.  Natasha uses healing soul psychology energies when working with youth and adults by releasing patterns & blocks to help them empower themselves.  Connect with me https://magicalwellness17.com

Angels in the Clouds

Why There is No Separation With Divine Will

There is no separation with Divine Will as the ego would wish you to believe. A negative premise to keep you locked away from achieving your greatness.

capricious Separation

Separation can be described as an egotistic nuance of mass mischievousness.  The ego would lead you to believe that you are alone and that no one cares for you.  This is simply not true.  We are never alone, and Spirit always cares about us.

It is the disallowance of separation of Self from the small self aka ego into the acceptance of Higher Self.  Which connects us all to the Holy Trinity of our Heart, Soul and Divine.  This is capricious in nature that merely suggests that one is alone; it is the reverence to dispel and disallow this nonsense to take place.

Undo the TEACHINGS

We are taught many things in our lives.  Some is from those who love us, and some of this is from society.  All of which is outside of our Self-  our true Self.  This is where the separation can occur. A whim that seems logical, and it is completely illogical.  Why would the Divine Spirit wish for one to suffer or think that they are less?  Divine Spirit does not wish this upon us, yet more often that not, this is what occurs.

We enter into an agreement to be taught via love; unfortunately, these teachings are from those who were also taught in this manner.  The human evolution risking its soul progression and evolution into a manner that seems daunting.  An old paradigm that no longer serves us; yet, why does one stay.

Fear! 

In my previous blog, “How the Power of Forgiving My Ego Saved Me,” I describe how fear is the underlying notion that one cannot move, things are great just the way they are.  What we should really be saying is conditional love and expectations.

Conditional Love 

When we were younger we were taught via an old human conditioning.  If you do this, then that will occur.  For a moment ponder Pavlov’s dogs and the conditioned stimulus.  The dog was presented a treat.  The saliva would lead to drool as the dog recalled how wonderful the treat tasted.  Sit- good boy!  The dog receives a treat.  Quite quickly the dog learned to complete the sitting task with ease as it really likes the treat.

Now how is this any different from parenting.  A parent desires a certain outcome.  All parents have different cultural views; therefore they have different ideal outcomes.  If you do this, then you are rewarded with a good girl/atta boy and maybe a treat.  Through the power of control; the Free Spirit upon which you were born was reduced and dissolved into a smaller self called the ego.  This is the makings for conditioned love.  Thus, through no fault of your own, you were taught if this, then that.  Slowly the ego creating notions that can create commotion as one grows older.

Expectations

Hence the human birth of expectations.  An expectation can be defined as a mental state of looking forward to something.  Expectations are a way to set one up for failure.  When you go in with a certain idea and this does not happen, how do you feel?  Failure, yet Spirit did not wish for you to feel this way.  Expectations are from the ego- aka Free Will; Divine Will does not wish you to feel this way.  Divine Will merely guides you to a solution, idea or experience; Free Will is when one loses control and the mental chatter looms into the picture.  This is almost like a dark shadow lurks on the outside waiting, searching for a way in.

AHA!  Here I go!  Victory-score one for me! (excerpt from When Egos Feed & Start in the Dark Workbook)

False Expectations

Then what seemed wonderful can turn sour.  How many times have you heard of a failed marriage or a failed experiment or even a broken heart.  The human conditioning of expectations set one up for the acceptance of a certain way, and when this does not occur, darkness of the ego separates from the Divine and the peaceful harmony of Spirit disengages and the power of Free Will takes over.

Divine Will cannot stand in place of Free Will.  It can merely suggest, hint and guide. It cannot do as it is not a doing; this is a being & Spirit will patiently wait for your return from separate expectations.

Return of Divine Will

Magical Blessings Soul Bursting ForthHow does one return to Divine Will?  Let go of the old patterns and triggers that are blocking you. There is a darkness the looms and lurks; Spirit will graciously guide you; create ways to help make suggestive moves.  For example, maybe you have stayed way too long in a job that no long serves you.  You were shown a new door way; yet, lingered way too long. You may have been fired or a new manager made your work life horrible.  Yes, this was Divine Will saying time to move along your path; but, Free Will kept you in fear and Free Will does not always mean great things.  Often times is it almost the polar opposite.

You can change your mind at any time; adjust the sails of wings and turn to Spirit and say, “Help me let go, take flight and soar.”  You may even wish to acknowledge the fear of change.  I know it is time for me to move to a new home; yet have no clue where to go.  “Dear Divine, I know my time here has concluded; yet I am frightened that I do not know where I am going.  Please show me the path to my new home and help me to silence the fears in a positive manner that respects all of my being.” and so it is.

Ask and You shall Receive

Ask and you shall receive; however do not fret, worry nor believe that it may not happen.  I had a Divine Will moment that took 2 years to manifest.  Trust me, when I say “Been there, done that.” What are you practicing? Faith and Trust in Divine Will & Spirit.  

In all honesty, I had many egotistic monstrosities keeping me from moving at one point in my life.  I finally had enough, let it go, got out of my way and the most Magical occurrences began to shift and align for me.

Believe deep in your Heart & Soul and “Seek and the  Desire Shall Seek You!” – Natasha Botkin

Yes, Natasha I would like to learn Faith, Trust and being able to Seek.

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 Magical Blessings Virtual Academy for both Youth & Adults to complete a course.

 

Oodles of Love & Magical Blessings, 

Natasha 

Natasha Botkin, Master Teacher & Intuitive Behavioral Energy Healer, is a #1 international bestselling author and Shiny Gold Star Quest creator.  As a Dark Heart Teacher, she uses healing soul psychology energies when working with youth and adults by releasing patterns & blocks to help them empower themselves.  Connect with me https://magicalwellness17.com

 

 

Angels in the Clouds

Accessing Archangel Michael’s Gifts of Clearance

Archangel Michael is one of your Divine Support Team Angels that you can access anywhere & anytime. Call his name and he will be there helping you release negativity. Archangel Michael is my go to guy. He is my birth angel and always walks by my side. The question that he has sought as of recent from me is: do I truly seek what is seeking me by releasing negativity of a past situation?

Besought Destiny

Rainbow Heart

Rainbow by Natasha Botkin

In one outrageous moment, the Divine spoke its Will for me. Due to the way it was presented it took every ounce for me not to flee. It is truly what I want and need; however Free Will spoke its ugly forum to me. It was almost an enticement of come darling, I have your truth. Do not stray from me. However, this could not have been further from my truth. Divine Will rode up in the form of a Dark Carriage; “come along and you will ride with me. We will ride our destiny.”

Michael’s Gifts of Clearance

As the moment arose, I called forth my Divine Angelic Support Team and felt my Guides and Angels coming forth; “we will walk with your dear one.  You are not alone and will master your destiny.  Take a deep breath for what you seek, seeks you and you will begin anew.”

Archangel Michael’s use of a mighty sword cuts away all the ties that may bind the negativity to you. Are you asking?  Due to Free Will, Angels cannot nor will not cross the Divine’s notion unless it is immediate life threatening danger.

As he cuts away the negativity the ego may wish to pull you back.  The ego very much dislikes competition, and this is a mega loss for the ego  Yet, it is not a loss or a win; it is the recognition of your birthright to be free.  You do not have to hold onto the darkness.  The darkness can be released and let go.  You deserve to be free of the patterns and triggers that hold you in a figurative cell.

Call to Thee

Say this simple prayer and Archangel Michael shall begin.

“Dear Archangel Michael, I am weary. Please help me to release that which no longer serves me.  I am afraid of this change, so please walk with me as I let go of the old and welcome the new.”

Poof!  Zip! Zap! Archangel Michael begins and releases that which binds the negativity to you. There is much more to the process.  The ego is a nasty little bugger that hides and looms deeply within.  Ponder a moment of disallowing the dark.  This is not a one stop shop or sweep.  That is the nonsense of a old paradigm.  Yes, you are releasing; then again, there is a new dance that must make way, and what if you do not know the dance.

You do Not have to dance alone

Angels in the Clouds

Angels in the Clouds by Natasha Botkin

I am not talking about a bad day- darkness.  I am talking about the darkness that looms, that picks, that can create pure and utter chaos in one’s life. Sometimes this shows as anxiety, depression, addiction (and addiction does not have to be to food, drugs, alcohol-this can be for anything that you keep repeating and know that you need to let go of), self-harm of yourself or others, grief, over spending, under spending, speaking ill about yourself, judgement, and so much more. How many times have you set out to conquer something only to falter?  The deliverance from a sate of absurdity to alter a pattern or trigger with the success of not truly hearing the advice or wellness.  This is anything that continually stands in your way from Shining your Divine Inner Radiance.

You do not have to be this way.  I describe in my book/blog “When Egos Feed, my ego was holding me prisoner with that facets if they know they will think less of me.  The ego’s utter mistrust.  So, I began my recovery alone.  Worse was the disillusion of separation. It seems as if I was all alone; yet I was never alone.  Again the trick that the ego is it to make one to believe- a nonsense of reverie- far away from the Divine.

Gentle Approach

The other iconic moment is the adage that it is a race. This  takes time to recover from the disallowance of the dark voids that can cause distrust, mistrust and darkness. A new way of being is not an overnight sensation.  Be patient as you are learning a new way of being.

When all was said and done, I had to find those who vibes with me.  Those who truly loved me for me.  I was surrounded in such a chaotic mess that many were me pulling down and away from my authenticity.

Never Ever Alone

Even if you need to let those who no longer walk with you–go; you are never ever alone  Your Divine Support Team is everywhere you are and go.  A former client once gasped at this notion, “You mean even when I masturbate?  Oh jeeze.”  Yes, Dear Heart, your Divine Support Team is everywhere you are.

Natasha, I would love to Shine My Inner Radiance:  Shiny Gold Star Quests.

or pick up a copy from the Magical Blessings Bookstore

When Egos Feed

Start in the Dark Workbook

or

 Magical Blessings Virtual Academy for both Youth & Adults to complete a course.

Oodles of Love & Magical Blessings, 

Natasha 

Natasha Botkin, Master Teacher & Intuitive Behavioral Energy Healer, is a #1 international bestselling author and Shiny Gold Star Quest creator.  As a Dark Heart Teacher, she uses healing soul psychology energies when working with youth and adults by releasing patterns & blocks to help them empower themselves.  Connect with me https://magicalwellness17.com